Module 3 Lesson 3. Thinking differently Example 2: Helen Helen takes care of her brother Matty, who is living with dementia. She writes the following: Name: Helen What was the event that made you feel upset or miserable? A week ago, our sister came to visit us. At the end of the day, I said to Matty, “it was a great day, don’t you think?” Then he said that he was not sure, because he could not remember exactly what we had been doing. He said that he was tired and wanted to sleep. What were your unhelpful thoughts? Nothing we do is worthwhile because Matty forgets everything. Everything is ruined because of his dementia. What would be more helpful to think? Even though he cannot remember what we did, I know that he had a great day too, and that is what counts. He smiled a lot today and kept saying how nice it was that our sister came. How could the helpful thoughts make you feel? Instead of feeling sad and miserable, I would have felt happy about the day we spent with our sister.