Make your own wish list for the help or support that you would like to receive.

Wishes could be for example:

• I would like help with bathing the person I care for.
• I would like advice on how to deal with the person I care for.
• I would like adjustments to be made in my home to accommodate the care needs of the person I care for.

List those wishes that you think are achievable. If you know beforehand that you might not be able to achieve a certain wish, it might be better to list a different wish that is more attainable.

For instance, Li would prefer to hire someone to clean the house every week. However, Li cannot afford this and realizes that her wish is not realistic. She could hire someone to clean the house once every two weeks or ask someone who she does not need to pay, such as a friend or relative.

She can ask the person to clean the whole house, or to help with specific tasks that are difficult for her, such as cleaning the floors.